Dad died on Friday after a battle with bowel/colon cancer. He was in the hospice and unfortunately we only got 15mins notice to get there fast before he died. None of the family managed to get there in that time as we all lived too far (im an hour away) All the family had been to see him recently but it isnt' the same as being there at the end. I feel bad about that. He was very confused in his last week which was very sad to see although sometimes he said some amusing things too!

Mum is in pieces, they have been together for almost 60 years and she is disabled and he was her main carer. My brother is brilliant and is helping Mum alot. It's a good thing that he lives only 10mins away. Ifeel so sad for her especially with it happening at this time of the year. Ive asked her to stay with us for Christmas but she doesn't want to.

I wish you all a very Happy Christmas.

Love Shirley x

Sheila I'm so sorry to read this. We were too late to be with our Dad too when he died. I still wish I could have bee there with him at the end but sometimes it's just not meant to be.
The time of year sometimes makes it seem even worse if that's possible.
Love to you and yours.

so sorry to hear of your sad loss Shirley,

sending hugs your way,

Suzanne x

Such sad news, Shirley. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Hugs and love xxxx

So sorry to hear of your loss Shirley.
Will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers

Diane x

Evening Shirley

So sorry to hear the very sad news about the loss of your dad

Thinking of you and all your family.

Julia xx

Hi Shirley,

Heartfelt sympathy from me at losing your dad, I know how hard this is having lost my dad in February. I too am struggling at the prospect of Xmas without him. It was meant to be he died before you got there. We were with my dad the whole time, I knew on the Thursday he didn't have long, we sat with him for a time in the evening, I told him to let go if he had had enough, that I would deal with everything and make him proud, he then said go to bed and have a Good Sleep. We had been up from 5am each day until late. This was his wish, I had checked on him again around 2am asking if he was ok, he smiled and put his thumb up. We awoke at 9.30am when my youngest daughter called. I went in to check on dad then and he had passed away in his sleep. I think he knew too and wanted to go on his own. We did everything we could for him as I am sure you have also done, so try not to be sad you were not there, it was his time and he knew he was loved.

I will keep you in my thoughts Shirley over this sad time, look after your mum and get as much support as you can for her.

Lorna xx

Hi Shirley ,
sorry to hear of this ..i lost my Mum 2 years ago at this time , and even though it was expected it was still a shock when it happened . We took comfort in the fact she was no longer in pain .

Hugs , and my thoughts go out to you
Rich X

Thank you all so much for your kind words and support.

The funeral is now arranged for Dec 30th which is quicker than i expected with Christmas in the way but i'm glad we will be able to lay him to rest.

Love Shirley x